Why I Left Home and My Comfort Zone

Recently I’ve been asked this question a lot…Why did I leave? What am I doing in London?

A few reasons…

1. I missed London. I missed everything about it. The energy, atmosphere of friends and culture. Anyone who’s ever lived in London, knows what I am mean.

2. I missed Europe. The ability to jump on a plane and take a 3 hour flight to Barcelona or a 1 hour flight to Switzerland, for only $100 (round trip). Walking into a room full of people and hearing 35 different accents and languages. I also miss the European mindset and culture.

3. I wasn’t ‘fulfilled’. It’s hard for me to say that because I can’t tell you one particular reason as to ‘why’ I wasn’t fulfilled. I can tell you that I was happy being home with my family and friends, and I was happy at work. But I didn’t feel like completely happy. I felt like I wanted more.

4. Wasn’t happy with my career. I’ve always done what I am ‘supposed to do’. Get a degree (I’ve got two) and a job. Work hard, save money… blah. I realized one day, although I held a good position/job, I didn’t really like what I was doing. I found myself thinking, ‘whats the point?’. I wasn’t  happy. I wanted more (not so much in terms of money, but more so the value of my job).

5. The independence. Yes, I could have moved to San Fran or maybe Denver and spent A LOT less money and I would have probably had a job by now! But, I could always go back to the US and get a job in 50 different states, if I wanted to.

image2 (I apologize for the iPhone images, my camera recently broke)

As I sit here live…from an empty pub in Angel, London (yes, I am drinking a beer and having some peanuts). As I’ve sat here and realized…. It has been three weeks since I left home. Since I’ve left my job, my car, my bed, my friends, family, and my comfort zone.

In the past three weeks, I turned 26 years old (my golden birthday), I celebrated my birthday in another country with a random stranger and close friend ( details in my next blog post). I’ve moved flat (UK lingo for apartment) three times. I’ve gone on 6+ interviews, and I’ve gotten 2 (shitty) offers. I’ve learned to live off an extremely tight budget and appreciate the random kind gestures of random strangers.

And If I am completely honest, there has not been one part of me that has asked myself, ‘Jen, why did you leave?’

As cliché as it sounds. Do what makes you happy. Now, don’t go quitting your jobs and run off to Europe (haha), but set up a plan. Give yourself deadlines, realistic goals and be true to yourself. Above everything, be honest with yourself. Find your passion.

I also think that if you don’t know what your passion is, it’s okay. I think that the best part is that you know what you DON’T want. The most important thing is that you learn and figure it out (it’s the journey, not the destination). In my case, I was tired of doing what I was ‘supposed to do’ and I decided to do what I wanted and step out of my comfort zone.

And as a good friend of mine said before I left, “Jen, I admire the fact that you aren’t willing to take the ‘what if’ to the grave.”  



  1. Isabel Valcarcel March 18, 2015 at 6:09 pm

    My 5 year plan … slowly waiting for 2020 to come. Wait for all of us! For now I’ll sit at my cubicle on Wall Street. LOL! Love you prima.

    • thesocialgirltraveler
      thesocialgirltraveler March 19, 2015 at 1:10 am

      I love you more Prima, hopefully I stick around! haha 😉

  2. Kerri March 18, 2015 at 6:17 pm

    This is so great, Jen!! Honestly – it’s exactly what I want to do. Are you finding job opps w/ sponsorship? When I go back, I’ve got to do it with a visa in hand because…poodle. Love her, but she certainly makes moving to another country a bit more difficult!

    • thesocialgirltraveler
      thesocialgirltraveler March 19, 2015 at 1:03 am

      Kerri, we should skype! 🙂 Let me know when you’re free.

  3. Alyssa March 18, 2015 at 6:18 pm

    This is a great read!!! 🙂

    • thesocialgirltraveler
      thesocialgirltraveler March 27, 2015 at 7:53 pm

      Thanks Alyssa glad you enjoyed it!

  4. Eric Cruz March 18, 2015 at 7:01 pm

    i admire what you’re doing sis and just wanted to let you know you’re missed… Good luck and let me know how everything is.

    • thesocialgirltraveler
      thesocialgirltraveler March 19, 2015 at 12:58 am

      Brother, thank you! 🙂 You are missed too. I hope all is well. I love you! xx

  5. BV March 18, 2015 at 8:16 pm

    Admire what you are doing. I think this is great. Congrats excited to see where you go next.

    • thesocialgirltraveler
      thesocialgirltraveler March 27, 2015 at 7:53 pm

      Thank you!

  6. Zena Deghaili March 18, 2015 at 11:00 pm

    Jen, I’m absolutely shocked and extremely proud of you! You go girl! Enjoy life my beauty! Most importantly, be safe, always!!!! Wishing you the best you precious soul xoxoxoxoxoxoxox #amazingblogging #gorg

    • thesocialgirltraveler
      thesocialgirltraveler March 19, 2015 at 12:58 am

      Zena! Thank you so much beautiful! Wishing you all the best as well. 🙂

  7. Dee March 18, 2015 at 11:39 pm

    although I do not know you personally, I ran across your blog on facebook and am glad I clicked the link! this post is extremely inspiring and eye opening. You are doing what I would love to do sometime in the future! Best of luck xx

    • thesocialgirltraveler
      thesocialgirltraveler March 19, 2015 at 12:56 am

      Hi Dee,

      Thank you so much for your kind words. I am really glad you enjoyed it. More to come so don’t worry! If you ever need any help or advice, feel free to reach out. 🙂

  8. Michael L March 19, 2015 at 12:31 pm

    Hey Jen,

    I’ve always tried to support my people in everything they do. Following you to London and more on a website was easy enough. I love that last post. I’m on my golden year too, and before you started this I was thinking about taking off and going. If not now then when?? You’ll find a job and you are doing what you want, not much more fulfilling than that. Life’s full of curve balls, and even though they harder to hit, you can still knock them out of the park. Keep on keeping on!

    • thesocialgirltraveler
      thesocialgirltraveler March 19, 2015 at 12:59 pm

      Hi Michael! Thanks so much for you’re kind words and you’re ABSOLUTELY 100% right. Thats what it’s all about! I am glad you enjoyed my post. Don’t worry there is more coming!

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